Lets get real here. We all know that kids love getting their electronics, toys, dolls, etc. for Christmas. This blog is not at all suggesting that we should stop giving them material gifts. My husband and I love to share our abundance and give our kiddos the gifts they ask for as they are great kids and deserve to feel happy at Christmas time.
What I have seen over and over again is that these types of gifts may bring great excitement during the time of anticipation and a strong feeling of happiness when the gifts are received, but how long do those good feelings last? How long before they acquire the next target and come ask for something newer & better? In those moments we find ourselves thinking… how dare they ask for something new, we gave them so much for Christmas. Our thoughts are then shortly followed by a lecture on being more appreciative, am I right?
But you see, things aren’t meant to create bonds that last or give us positive feelings that last a lifetime. The media manipulates us into thinking that things will bring long lasting happiness but how is that working so far? Only people can. It’s the intangible gifts of love, life & laughter that touch our hearts & souls forever.
As parents/guardians we have an opportunity to give our kiddos gifts of love, peace & security that will never ever leave their hearts & minds. What if I told you there are five gifts we can give them right now that will create a solid emotional foundation for their future. These gifts come in the form of words & actions. We can offer them not just at Christmas but as often as we have to until they imprint in their hearts. Here they are, short & sweet:
1. How lucky am I to be your parent, to get to raise a wonderful child like you. My life would feel so empty without you.
2. You will never ever have to earn my unconditional love, it’s your birthright. When you say this to them, be sure to walk the talk. When they misbehave, take away their privileges but NEVER EVER your love, attention or presence.
3. There’s no need to fear your emotional & physical safety. Protecting you is my/our job until I/we teach you to do it in your own.
4. I’m so glad you’re YOU. You are enough just the way you are in this moment. You’re kind enough, smart enough, handsome/pretty enough, funny enough, loving enough. Only compare yourself to the self you were yesterday and never to others. Be willing to learn and grow but do it for you.
5. You’re so lovable! Your compassion, humor, your kind heart make you so darn lovable. We love spending time with you. We wanna get in on those good vibes you got going on.
I’m not sure how you feel after reading those words but just writing them out of my head onto paper made me feel good about myself as a mom…got me all misty eyed. I know for a fact our kids receive these words with an open heart because when we tell them they usually say a heart felt “Thank You”. These truly are gifts that will last a lifetime. I’m going to close with a quote…
“Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, it is found in the true heart of a friend”
I’d love to hear your thoughts! Much love to you all!
Dee
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