Naked & unafraid is how we all show up in this world…unafraid to love, that is.
I believe, as humans, it is impossible to live a life that is completely devoid of fear…at least not at the body& mind level. Fear is a vital response to physical & emotional threats. We all come equipped with survival instincts and the right body/brain chemistry that helps us stay alive and safe when faced with life-or-death situations.
The other side of this is that life can become really heavy & stagnant when we fear situations that in reality are far from life-or-death but feel very very real & scary in our minds. How did we get here?
If you are human, there is no doubt you’ve grown up shaped by fear: fear of pain, fear of exposure, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of abandonment, fear of loneliness, fear of not fitting in, fear of judgement, fear of not being good enough, fear of death, etc…
From all our life experiences combined, we have each formed a set of core beliefs that rule our current lives. The problem is, with this, comes a set of negative and often false core beliefs that we’ve created as a way of protecting ourselves from emotional pain. Ironically, believing that emotional pain is something to be avoided is another limiting core belief. Though emotional pain may be uncomfortable, it surely doesn’t kill us. In fact, overcoming emotional pain time after time gives us tremendous emotional resilience that in the long run reduces our own suffering.
Bringing this set of fear based, limiting beliefs into adulthood, without even realizing it, very often creates unhappiness in our relationships, our life through much unnecessary suffering. These beliefs show up as judgement, doubt, criticism, worry, anger and everything else one may find on the ego’s playground. Our ego is this hard shell we’ve built around our loving & trusting soul, comprised of layer on top of layer of perceived protection to give us the illusion of being safe & without pain. It’s quite the complex structure.
The beauty of it is that beyond these layers of pain, judgement,expectations, criticism, fear & doubt is a beautiful, bright shining, pure loving soul waiting to emerge! As adults we can choose at any time to start exploring and crushing these accumulated layers to unveil the brightest, purest, most beautiful, most loving selves! Eliminating false beliefs in the mind creates more room in our life for emotions of gratitude, love, respect, and happiness.
Ok, but where do we start?
The practice of stillness can be used as a first step towards exploring who we are at our naked core. It could be prayer for some, reflection or meditation for others. Whatever works in finding stillness…
– It is in stillness we can ask God: “Please show me who I am to you. Please help me see the me that you’ve made me to be”
– It is in stillness that we can feel so absolutely connected with everything and everyone and be left with a sense of perfect peace and knowing of who we are.
– It is in stillness that we often find that the callous and cruel narrator that’s lived in our head for decades wasn’t even our own voice…it was a parent’s, a neighbor’s, a teacher’s, a friend’s voice that got imprinted in our psyche.
-It is in stillness that we find that life can be painful and amazing all at the same time, and that the ultimate mission is to use it all as growth of the soul. To return to the naked soul that’s unafraid to love and unafraid to trust God more than our own fears.
But God doesn’t call us to be comfortable. He calls us to trust Him so completely that we are unafraid to put ourselves in situations where we will be in trouble if He doesn’t come through. ~ Francis Chan
So there it is my friends. Find the will to crush these layers one at a time so you can finally meet the naked, unveiled “YOU” and the God power & love that’s lived inside you since birth. Give yourself the gift of living life from the deepest, most loving but unafraid part of your being. And by the way, this is exactly how life coaches, like myself, can help you expand into a more joyous life.
Much love to all of you! ?
Dee
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